Who also needs this surgery for girlfriend's mother like me??

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Quote from: InStrydeMyFaith on November 07, 2020, 07:57:53 AMHe is just being practical. He mentions he is 162 and he is gf is like 150. If they have a son, statistically speaking he ll probably end up less than 165. I am 165 and I can guarantee that life is crap, even here in northern Europe where height discrimination does not exist in such an extreme form.

If he has a daughter and she ends up 150,do you think this is not a problem? A girl being short is not as bad as a guy, but at the point of 150 I don't think it is nice

I wouldn't want to have my children needing to do LL, although if need to at least I would have been the guinea pig already
Until today I've known maybe I had also been sacrificed for my parent's wedding...

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Quote from: NotSoBigBadBruin on November 07, 2020, 09:37:56 AMOK, it’s your decision, I don’t want to convince anyone to have kids if they think their kids might end up unhappy. But I think it’s sad that people feel they shouldn’t have kids just because of their height. 有匪君子‘s girlfriend is 148 cm, but is she miserable because of her height? Does she think her life is not worth living? Probably not. And who knows, maybe LL will be much safer and easier in 20 years’ time. Again, I don’t want to convince anyone to have kids, but be aware that there are few things in life that can bring you as much joy as becoming a parent and raising a child.
Thx...If my children were destined to be bullied,discriminated or something else because of height,only thing we can do was to take good care of him or her mental and bring much joy to him or her.

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You can never make sure that your child won’t be bullied. Even if YOU were tall, your child could still take after his mother (e.g., Will Smith’s son Jaden is way shorter than his father). Or if you used a sperm donation from a tall donor, your child could still end up, e.g., with a huge nose because the donor’s mom had a huge nose. Or there could be complications during birth and your child might end up mentally disabled. If you give your child enough love, he/she will be happy no matter what.

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I apologies for suggesting that very short people should consider carefully before marrying each other and I concede that this thinking is prejudicial.  To reproduce is a fundamental human right and so it should be.  To the OP - maybe if you spend some time with your girlfriends mother and she gets to know you then she may see past her prejudices.  I don't think you should do this surgery just for her.  It's a challenging, costly and a somewhat risky surgery and it won't really fix the problem - if she finds out that you had the surgery then she might feel you tried to cheat her and this will likely damage your relationship in any case.

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Quote from: NotSoBigBadBruin on November 07, 2020, 03:40:13 PMYou can never make sure that your child won’t be bullied. Even if YOU were tall, your child could still take after his mother (e.g., Will Smith’s son Jaden is way shorter than his father). Or if you used a sperm donation from a tall donor, your child could still end up, e.g., with a huge nose because the donor’s mom had a huge nose. Or there could be complications during birth and your child might end up mentally disabled. If you give your child enough love, he/she will be happy no matter what.
Fit what I was thinking!

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Quote from: Ascending on November 07, 2020, 04:14:23 PMI apologies for suggesting that very short people should consider carefully before marrying each other and I concede that this thinking is prejudicial.  To reproduce is a fundamental human right and so it should be.  To the OP - maybe if you spend some time with your girlfriends mother and she gets to know you then she may see past her prejudices.  I don't think you should do this surgery just for her.  It's a challenging, costly and a somewhat risky surgery and it won't really fix the problem - if she finds out that you had the surgery then she might feel you tried to cheat her and this will likely damage your relationship in any case.
In fact I'm to do this surgery for myself meanwhile.If it's empty enough for you,you can read my past posts and you shall know why I said 'I'm to do this surgery for myself meanwhile'.
So anyway her mother is a catalyzer.I just found a reasonable excuse for myself or I dunno why I would rather receive others' personal attacks to my height.But actually I'm indeed bombarded with misery from my height.
Guys above are right.I truly love her and I don't wanna give her up.
As for 'spend some time with her mother and she gets to know you then she may see past her prejudices.'...I knew of her temper and bad personality.So let's say No.
And I can guarantee even she found scars on my legs or I couldn't walk at normal speed or something else,it wouldn't inform her of LL .You and I can take it easy.Her mother didn't receive general education and can't speak a single English word.You know,China is always shutting away any piece of information about LL and her mother is always busy working that she couldn't spare time to surf on the Internet or TV(China is more strict with controlling information about LL on TV).So she wouldn't know I did this surgery.That's why I dare do LL to cheat her.

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Quote from: 有匪君子 on November 07, 2020, 04:38:26 PMIn fact I'm to do this surgery for myself meanwhile.If it's empty enough for you,you can read my past posts and you shall know why I said 'I'm to do this surgery for myself meanwhile'.
So anyway her mother is a catalyzer.I just found a reasonable excuse for myself or I dunno why I would rather receive others' personal attacks to my height.But actually I'm indeed bombarded with misery from my height.
Guys above are right.I truly love her and I don't wanna give her up.
As for 'spend some time with her mother and she gets to know you then she may see past her prejudices.'...I knew of her temper and bad personality.So let's say No.
And I can guarantee even she found scars on my legs or I couldn't walk at normal speed or something else,it wouldn't inform her of LL .You and I can take it easy.Her mother didn't receive general education and can't speak a single English word.You know,China is always shutting away any piece of information about LL and her mother is always busy working.So she wouldn't know I did this surgery.That's why I dare do LL to cheat her.
Understood and good luck!

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Quote from: Ascending on November 07, 2020, 04:46:23 PMUnderstood and good luck!
Thx!

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Hi
I understand your situation and concerns, that push you to consider LL. However, if you do LL with 8cm or more, I am sure your gf's mom will notice it as well as many others.  How can you handle this situation?  Is there any perfect scenario?

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Quote from: Ghostfish on November 09, 2020, 05:47:44 AMHi
I understand your situation and concerns, that push you to consider LL. However, if you do LL with 8cm or more, I am sure your gf's mom will notice it as well as many others.  How can you handle this situation?  Is there any perfect scenario?
My scenario is the best scneario.What I've said is that only me and my gf will know about this whole plan.I know I'll be noticed by others besides us but there ain't any explanation except that I grew taller thanks to my gene.
Chineses know very little about LL besides short ones and the education level of my gf's family is not high.I'd thank for China's banning the information about LL but take pity on other short people who haven't heard of this surgery.