Quote from: myloginacct on January 17, 2018, 03:34:12 AMIsn't this reversed? There are hordes of users here who are short(er) but look in the mirror and see this 6 feet guy. You are, of course, right about the points of a man who's 5'5 and sees that in the mirror. That's someone who wants to solve a problem. However, how can we not say that all the men here who look at themselves in the mirror and don't see their "true selves" isn't partially also BDD? Think of all the comments about what height we were meant to be, the height we actually "feel" like, etc.
I'm not saying a lot of people aren't just looking at a problem and wanting to solve it, but there's also BDD involved for a lot of people here (including myself) - specially all the guys on the taller side of things. The problems their height bring to themselves are more in their heads than anywhere else.
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No, there isn't. And no, it isn't "reversed". There aren't "hordes of users who are shorter but look in the mirror and see this 6 feet guy". You're playing with words.
When I made that comparison to a man who's 6'0"+, but looks in the mirror and sees a 5'2" guy, I was speaking from a literal point of view. "BDD" is a form of psychosis. Very often, it involves actual hallucinations - as in, your brain is actually parsing the information it is passed by the optic nerves in your eyes in a way that does not reflect reality.
What you're talking about - this statement
QuoteThink of all the comments about what height we were meant to be, the height we actually "feel" like, etc.
is not a case of hallucinogenic psychosis. When someone says "I should have been/was meant to be tall", or "I feel like I'm tall", what they're actually saying is "I deserve to be treated the way tall people are treated". It expresses a sense of
1) dissatisfaction with their current state of being
2) entitlement to a better state of being
not a disconnect from reality. The type of person you are describing doesn't have "Body Dysmorphic Disorder" any more than a poor man who says "I was meant to be rich" has "Financial Dysmorphic Disorder" or some loser average Joe who says "I feel like I should be getting mobbed by screaming fans like movie stars do" has "Social Status Dysmorphic Disorder".
Again, actual "body dysmorphic disorder", if and when it manifests itself, does so spontaneously and as a result of some kind of cerebral malfunction - not because a person was bullied, humiliated, disparaged, and otherwise discriminated against until they eventually developed a complex, self-hate issues, low self-esteem, etc, which is what happens to short people because of heightism, ugly people because of lookism, colored people because of racism, and so on.
If you're on this site or other height-increase sites because you got bullied, mocked, humiliated, or rejected by your family, peers, potential romantic partners, etc because of your stature, you DON'T have "body dysmorphic disorder". The problem isn't "in their head". The problem is the way people treat them, and the reason people treat them that way is their height.
So if anything, the problem is PHYSICAL, not mental. That's why no amount of "therapy", antidepressants, or any other dumb copes will help once you've ended up on this site. There are only 2 possible genuine SOLUTIONS to the problem these people have
1) Radically change society literally overnight so that it worships short people the way it does tall people, or at least stops the profound, deep-seated discrimination and oppression of short people
2) Stop being short
Speaking realistically, 1) isn't going to happen. Heightism, lookism, and other -ism forms of discrimination aren't going anywhere in the lifetime of anyone posting on this board now (in my opinion they will never stop existing period, but that's beside the point). So that just leaves 2), and that's where this surgery comes in, and where other treatments for short stature should come in.
Heightism and lookism especially aren't going anywhere. Because both of these are largely MEN'S problems (which is not to say there are no women who are victims of heightism or lookism, only that it is rarer for their lives to be so blighted by these things that they end up on sites like this), outside of boards like this one, nobody is willing to even entertain that these forms of discrimination exist, let alone acknowledge their prevalence - hell, even on this very board they're downplayed by posters like you, who refuse to acknowledge the true scope of their influence in society and just how widespread and noxious they really are and repeatedly try to portray things as "not being so bad".
Nobody else is going to change. Things aren't going to "get better" on their own. Paying some patronizing clown who calls himself a "doctor" $120/hr to pretend to be your friend, spout platitudes at you, write you a prescription for prozac and send you on your merry way isn't going to make things better. Pulling the covers over your eyes and telling yourself it's not so bad isn't going to make things better. The only thing anyone here can do is change themselves PHYSICALLY so the discrimination stops and they can move on, or do whatever it is they want to do with their lives. Whether it's fair or not that they have to do so is irrelevant. That's reality.