It's most likely your personality rather than your looks that are holding you back. I'm arguably less good looking than you, especially since I'm somewhat overweight now due to all the lack of exercise, muscle atrophy and lowered stamina after recovering from LL. And I'm shorter than you when you wear 2-inch lifts, but I'm attracting all sorts of attractive girls, including a high fashion model last week. So, it's not your looks. Maybe it's a little bit of your looks, but since I'm not as good looking as you and I'm doing pretty well in the dating scene, I'm going to guess that looks is not the major factor here. If you were ugly, I would have said it's your looks, but you look fine to me. Only thing is that you're not so super attractive that you don't need a personality to pull in girls. And no, being 2 inches taller still doesn't make you super attractive, sorry. Maybe if you being ripped, you might, though. So, you still need to supplement your looks with a good game/routine/whatever you want to call it.
I can't give you a detailed reason as to what it is about your personality unless you post like a transcript of how you talk to girls you're interested in - though, you probably shouldn't do that since this is a public forum. But here's a quick guess: You say that the girls who you don't like, like you. But the girls you do like, don't like you. This might mean that you're treating these two types of girls differently. A common mistake that people make when trying to attract someone is to be too nice to someone. If you don't appear busy or have a lot going on, then it's not attractive. You might appear busy to girls you don't like, because you're blowing them off or not showing much interest. This is attractive to girls, because you don't lower your value to them. You're telling them subtly that you're a higher value than them and that they have to earn your time. You probably aren't doing this to the girls you are attracted to, so they think less of you because you're too friendly to them i.e. you're making a great case for them to be your friend, not girlfriend. I recommend doing research on how to improve your personality and attraction to girls - dating books, blogs, and even YouTube videos. This will help you much more than getting taller. The best improvement you can do in the dating world is to be happy with yourself and your life first. If you aren't even happy with yourself, then why would someone else who's not you be happy with you?
Not all hope is lost, though, because I didn't know how to attract girls when I was younger, too. It's a skill that you can hone and practice to become better with. Some people are born naturally charismatic, but you don't have to be. I certainly wasn't. The other good thing is that there are always new girls out there for you to practice with. Once you meet a new girl, it's like a clean slate. You get to start all over again, and not make the same mistakes this time around.
Quote from: yyes on July 08, 2017, 02:26:59 PMAesthetically speaking, does it make sense to lengthen tibias or femurs? Again I'm only doing 5 cm but I want to do the procedure that will give the illusion of me looking taller.
If only 5 cm get external fixators for tibias, It looks better, you look taller as your knee is above. You can even do 6-7 there .
Quote from: yyes on July 08, 2017, 02:26:59 PMAesthetically speaking, does it make sense to lengthen tibias or femurs? Again I'm only doing 5 cm but I want to do the procedure that will give the illusion of me looking taller.
Why the illusion of looking taller? That might be good for you for pictures if no one else was in the photo but that sounds like a temporary fix to me. If height is truly important to others they will still judged you by reference against other people's height.
If your actual height doesn't matter to you then get over the mental hump. If it actually matters to you, do more research on LL. But make sure this is for you not for others.
Quote from: yyes on July 08, 2017, 03:28:49 PMYeah I live in the USA
Is it my looks then that are holding me back?
No- most white, Asian and black women are just gonna have a bias toward white men. Nothing to do with your height or how you generally look because you seem to be a good looking fella, but being a minority might make things a bit harder. That might not be the reason, I'm jus speculating. But I seriously doubt it's your height, to the extent that a few inches will make any difference at all.
IMO the race bias is as strong as the height bias or maybe stronger- when I look at people's online dating profiles they tend to stipulate that they want to date only white men even more often than they have a strong height barrier (like above 5'7" or 5'8").
But I've never dated women as a non-white guy... So I don't know.
Depends on the city. The more Asians there are in the city you live in, the more accepting interracial couples become. For example, if you are in L.A., Seattle, Houston, and NYC, I see a few white girls with Asian guys. But the bias is still there. I tend to find that the white girls who date me (an Asian guy) tend to have been exposed to Asians before - whether they had an Asian friend before or watch Asian movies/TV shows or listen to Asian music. Very rarely does a girl who's never been around Asian culture much will be willing to really date me. Maybe they'd try it, but they won't like me as much as if I were white instead. I think those white girls just look down on Asian guys and the feeling is similar to when a tall girl looks down on a short guy. The opposite is true for white guys with Asian girls, though. White guys WANT to look down on their Asian girlfriends - figuratively and literally. I see many tall white guys with short Asian girls. So so many.
Quote from: yyes on July 07, 2017, 07:08:03 PMI didn't think the word buddy was demeaning at all until I called someone taller than me buddy. His reaction?
Buddy? I'm taller than you. Don't call me buddy.
His defensive reaction is more telling of his own insecurities than your height. He interpreted the word "buddy" as a dimunitive addressing (being patronized) and his immediate rebuttal was height related (he just projected his most salient and relevant insecurity).
Quote from: DoingItForMe on July 08, 2017, 07:49:51 PMDepends on the city. The more Asians there are in the city you live in, the more accepting interracial couples become. For example, if you are in L.A., Seattle, Houston, and NYC, I see a few white girls with Asian guys. But the bias is still there. I tend to find that the white girls who date me (an Asian guy) tend to have been exposed to Asians before - whether they had an Asian friend before or watch Asian movies/TV shows or listen to Asian music. Very rarely does a girl who's never been around Asian culture much will be willing to really date me. Maybe they'd try it, but they won't like me as much as if I were white instead. I think those white girls just look down on Asian guys and the feeling is similar to when a tall girl looks down on a short guy. The opposite is true for white guys with Asian girls, though. White guys WANT to look down on their Asian girlfriends - figuratively and literally. I see many tall white guys with short Asian girls. So so many.
There are all types of interracial couples, not just Asian + (another race). You are probably more hyper focused on this because you're Asian. You see few interracial couples with Asian men because Asian men (like black women) are the least desired of all races. This is the world we live in.
Quote from: Jack1066 on July 08, 2017, 06:10:31 PMIMO the race bias is as strong as the height bias or maybe stronger- when I look at people's online dating profiles they tend to stipulate that they want to date only white men even more often than they have a strong height barrier (like above 5'7" or 5'8").
But I've never dated women as a non-white guy... So I don't know.
Quote from: DoingItForMe on July 08, 2017, 07:49:51 PMDepends on the city. The more Asians there are in the city you live in, the more accepting interracial couples become. For example, if you are in L.A., Seattle, Houston, and NYC, I see a few white girls with Asian guys. But the bias is still there. I tend to find that the white girls who date me (an Asian guy) tend to have been exposed to Asians before - whether they had an Asian friend before or watch Asian movies/TV shows or listen to Asian music. Very rarely does a girl who's never been around Asian culture much will be willing to really date me. Maybe they'd try it, but they won't like me as much as if I were white instead. I think those white girls just look down on Asian guys and the feeling is similar to when a tall girl looks down on a short guy. The opposite is true for white guys with Asian girls, though. White guys WANT to look down on their Asian girlfriends - figuratively and literally. I see many tall white guys with short Asian girls. So so many.
Quote from: Thatdude950 on July 08, 2017, 05:45:42 PMNo- most white, Asian and black women are just gonna have a bias toward white men. Nothing to do with your height or how you generally look because you seem to be a good looking fella, but being a minority might make things a bit harder. That might not be the reason, I'm jus speculating. But I seriously doubt it's your height, to the extent that a few inches will make any difference at all.
So are all you guys going for white girls? I keep it exclusively to hispanic girls since Im hispanic and I still struggle.
Quote from: yyes on July 08, 2017, 10:07:16 PM
So are all you guys going for white girls? I keep it exclusively to hispanic girls since Im hispanic girls and I still struggle.
Not to be negative but you probably need to up your game, I find that hispanic girls are probably the easiest to pick up.
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