About the "Friendzone"

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Quote from: Wannabegiant on September 26, 2014, 04:00:17 PMI wouldnt say it is anybodys fault i was put into the friendzone, and being put into the friendzone is not the reason i was angry at her anyway, i did her a favor and tried to be her friend after that because she didnt want to lose me as a friend, even though i probably should have stopped hanging out with her immediately. I only had known her for like 2-3 months before i was friendzoned, and in that time i had met her in person maybe 5 times if i recall correctly, and i realize you have to make your intention clear from the beginning but im sure she would have rejected me anyway if i asked her from the beginning and then it would probably have ended right there. I did try to flirt with her occasionally but she would laugh it off and change subject.

I treated her the same way after i was friendzoned, although i stopped flirting for the most part.

Its completely understandable why she wasnt attracted to me in the first place, i assumed that was the case which is why i at first didnt make any move on her, she made an effort to hang out with me a lot and send lots of messages even though we just met in school, if she didnt do that its likely i would never had tried to get to know her better, since i wasnt happy with myself back then.

The reason i was lacking in so many areas prior to meeting her is technically not my own fault either, i had a series of bad events which i had no control over happen to me during my teens, which has affected my life in all areas. When you are depressed you often dont even try to work on yourself, but i tried anyway but it took me much longer to improve since i had so many things against me. Many things other than height.

Only now after this LL is done do i feel i can reach my full potential in terms of physical appearance, which many of my friends did by the time they where 18-20 years old.

She changed though for sure after i left, she changed the way she talked to me, and she is way less active on social media now. Now im not sure if she would be any different in person if i meet her, but its something i would like to find out. But at this point she is probably angry and sad because she thinks i dont care about her at all, so i expect her to be in defensive mode if i meet her. Part of me just wants to sleep with her since im attracted to her, part of me want to be with her because other than her superficial and arrogant traits she was very fun to talk to and made my boring life more enjoyable at times. But i cant really see it working out in anyway because of the bad experiences in the past with her.

I agree with you that it is difficult to be friends with girls since they for the most part dont do things i enjoy doing, and if you are attracted to them it can become akward at times.

I dont find myself being friendzoned alot since most girls i meet are at clubs, so i either get rejected or score, this girl was different though since i met her at school and she for some reason really wanted to hang out with me even though i didnt make an effort to talk to her in the beginning.

As for respect, i dont agree, there is a certain level of respect that you should be able to expect. If you notice someone treating you worse than others openly then there is a reason to make a deal out of it. If she expects me to go out and meet her last minute in some club in the city (she lives much closer as mentioned) then i at least expect her to want to actually hang out with me when i get there, not hang out with some other people and occasionally talk to me, since i wasnt able to bring my own friends.

And just to make it clear, i didnt show her any kind of neediness (if i did it must have been miniscule) when i met her and hanged out with her. As i mentioned she kept spamming me with texts and calls, i was laidback and made her laugh a lot with my jokes, we mostly talked random stuff, and i was acting confident when i was out with her. But as mentioned the only time i reacted "badly" was when it became clear that she just wanted me there as a sidekick, i mean i dont think anybody wants to be treated that way, she asked me to come out and see her, i did that, but then she barely hangs out with me and instead starts mingling with all the more popular dudes, i would be fine with it if i had someone i knew with me, but im not the type of guy to just start talking to random people in a bar when im basically alone and not drunk.

Okay man I didn't mean anything by it I'm sure you'll do even better with the chicks now that you're taller. Are you recovering well, when do you get the frames off?

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Quote from: Uppland on September 26, 2014, 05:52:43 PMOkay man I didn't mean anything by it I'm sure you'll do even better with the chicks now that you're taller. Are you recovering well, when do you get the frames off?

Haha sorry for my wall of text, i didnt get offended but i always want to give the complete picture when discussing topics important to me, especially since i rarely talk about this in real life, i dont have those kind of friends that like to analyse girls that much.

Well yeah definitely, because with the height gain i finally feel like it is worth it to improve my other areas, so overall i will look like a very different person.

I tried walking outside yesterday and noticed huge improvements (i walk outdoors ca once a week for the last 2 months) and at this point i can walk and look almost normal even outside without aid. My frames will most likely be removed within 2 weeks from now, i will do another x-ray on monday to see if my left leg is healed, my right leg was done over a month ago.

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You are obsessed with this 1 biatch that you put on a pedestal and is constantly on your mind.  Probably cuz you're still in frames and you only have her to think of.

As soon as you'll get a new gf, you'll mostly forget about the "ex", works every time!

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Quote from: G-Man on September 26, 2014, 11:24:41 PMYou are obsessed with this 1 biatch that you put on a pedestal and is constantly on your mind.  Probably cuz you're still in frames and you only have her to think of.

As soon as you'll get a new gf, you'll mostly forget about the "ex", works every time!

Hey i assure you i never put her on a pedestal (well i really really liked her but i didnt make it nearly as obvious to her, i just told her that i like her and flirted a bit, i never treated her like she was better than me)

But youre right, the main reason she is on my mind is the fact that i have the frames on and cant meet new girls, also i kind of didnt want to finish it with her back then because i always wanted to meet her again after i was taller, but it took so long to do this that it might be to late and there is no point anymore.

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I hear you, you wanna stick it to her, normal.  Its a battle in the back of your head that you have to win, self-accomplishment.  But as soon as you'll be dating other chix, that challenge won't seem as important anymore.

If you ever pick her up let us know, a good comeback is always fun! 

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Quote from: G-Man on September 28, 2014, 03:38:24 AMI hear you, you wanna stick it to her, normal.  Its a battle in the back of your head that you have to win, self-accomplishment.  But as soon as you'll be dating other chix, that challenge won't seem as important anymore.

If you ever pick her up let us know, a good comeback is always fun! 

Thank you man, thats exactly it, and in my mind the only thing i have to do to "win" is to become similarly popular to her (which will be worth more since im a guy) and gain muscle and dress good. Because those things where the only advantages she had over me. Im sure she will feel bad and maybe regret as well if she sees me like that.

I think LL taking so ridiculously long to complete destroyed my chances of ever getting with her, unless i run into her some years from now. But currently she probably thinks of me as a bitter douche who ditched her as some sort of revenge, even though i didnt really ever say anything insulting to her.  I think at some point back then she wanted me, but height and LL held me back.

Im sure i will see her eventually, but i have no idea how she will react. I probably post it here because that will probably work as some sort of conclusion for me.

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Quote from: Wannabegiant on October 01, 2014, 10:58:33 AMThank you man, thats exactly it, and in my mind the only thing i have to do to "win" is to become similarly popular to her (which will be worth more since im a guy) and gain muscle and dress good. Because those things where the only advantages she had over me. Im sure she will feel bad and maybe regret as well if she sees me like that.

I think LL taking so ridiculously long to complete destroyed my chances of ever getting with her, unless i run into her some years from now. But currently she probably thinks of me as a bitter douche who ditched her as some sort of revenge, even though i didnt really ever say anything insulting to her.  I think at some point back then she wanted me, but height and LL held me back.

Im sure i will see her eventually, but i have no idea how she will react. I probably post it here because that will probably work as some sort of conclusion for me.

I like how you think her cuca dont smell like rotten fish just like every other girl out there, or that she looks like a male without make up on. You are putting her on a pedistal when she is NO different than other girls AT ALL.

Well nothing i say will change your mind you will find out yourself if you get this Queen of glory...shm

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that sounds really nasty when you say it like that slim tim LOL

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Quote from: Slim_tim on October 01, 2014, 04:08:50 PM
I like how you think her cuca dont smell like rotten fish just like every other girl out there, or that she looks like a male without make up on. You are putting her on a pedistal when she is NO different than other girls AT ALL.

Well nothing i say will change your mind you will find out yourself if you get this Queen of glory...shm

I dont really get your point here, im not actually trying to get her, i just want it to be obvious to her that she made a mistake, then if i run into her il see how her attitude is and after that i can finish this.

Im sure its much easier for her to get over the fact that i ditcher her now when it seems like i am doing nothing with my life on social media, while she is studying abroads.. while for me its very hard to think about something else when i cant really do anything right now.

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Quote from: Wannabegiant on October 01, 2014, 05:06:36 PM i cant really do anything right now.

You are consolidating now, this alone, is quite a feat!