About the "Friendzone"

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Quote from: Wannabegiant on June 05, 2014, 06:12:37 PMSo in my lonely days during the consolidation period i have had way to much time to think about things, mostly depressing things to be honest, all my friends and other young people are out and having fun while i will spend majority of this summer in my house in isolation. Fortunately there have been a lot of rainy and gray days so far this summer.

Anyway one thing i came to realize that is a big deal in my life right now, is that no matter how much you like a girl or enjoy being with her, you should never accept the friendzone if you get there..

First of all she expects you to accept her terms while she refused your terms, and when you get down to it, regardless of what explanations or sugar coating they might say to make you want to be friends, she still thinks she is better than you, and too good for you. I personally would never want to hang out with someone who made it obvious that they think less of you.

I was debating wheter i was gonna get in touch with a girl i mentioned before who not only friendzoned me, but constantly made it very obvious that she thought she was "above" me. She got a bit humbled after i ditched her and she tried to get me back, and while i really wanted to see her in person with my new height, this thing simply takes way to long to get done so at this point i just hope i will run into her some day, just so i can put her down a notch.

So i guess id like to know if some of you guys still hang out as friends with girls who you liked but didnt want you? if you do, how does it feel? (im talking from a guys perspective but i realize that girls probably get friendzoned to once in a while)

Nope, fk them. I occasionally hang out with a girl who rejected me about five years ago, but not very often.

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what if someone will friendzone you not because the fact the you were short, but for the fact that you had LL?
I was rolling this question in my mind today, anyone has experience thing like that?
I've just told the guy that "we" plan to date about LL today, and frankly I didn't feel relief after that  all I felt that I'm so exposed ..

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Quote from: Disobedient on February 18, 2015, 01:17:48 AMwhat if someone will friendzone you not because the fact the you were short, but for the fact that you had LL?

I would cringe because these are the same type of people that demand us to be tall in the first place, society is very messed up so there's gonna be people that do that but nobody has to know you did this to you, people deserve to be lied to (at least the superficial ones not the good ones).

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When I was at university 10 years back I was lucky enough to friendzone quiet a few. I am from India and at my height of 5.7 I was no.4 short guy of 14 guys and taller than all the 36 girls in my class( class of 50 ). All the taller guys were around 5.8 or 5.9 range and only one was 6 feet. Inspite of being short I was popular in my class due to my eccentric personality. Now after ten years I feel more short as the current generation in India is taller.

Now when it comes to friendzone I was physically attracted  to them as were they but didn't only proceed openly but would have in private, as I used to feel to have higher status. By the time I got chance I was stuck with my girlfriend  . So the point is even though you are friendzoned I believe their must be some attraction from her towards you. Now with your increased height and confident personality approach her once again and try and make some aggressive move  (what ever feels comfortable to you). You might turn lucky if not atleast you will get rid of this guilty feeling of being in friendzone.

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QuoteI am from India and at my height of 5.7

QuoteInspite of being short I was popular in my class due to my eccentric personality.

QuoteAverage heights of Indian men and women are 5 ft 5 in (165 cm) and 5 ft (152 cm) respectively. This information is based on a 2006 study by National Institute of Nutrition (Indian Council of Medical Research).

166.3 cm (5 ft 5 1⁄2 in) for 20 year olds.
164.7 cm (5 ft 5 in) for 20-49 year olds
161.2 cm (5 ft 3 1⁄2 in) for 17+ rural

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_height

its all in your head.

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Funny thing is somehow I missed participating in survey and nobody I new of in my 33 years of age. But height varies hugely  in India between villages and cities. In village I might be 50 percentile but in city where I live I might be not even 15 percentile. This constant comparison when I go outside is killing me hence want to get LL done. Now 2015 and 10 years latter from whatever and where ever survey wiki got from, the current generation is really tall and I feel short for my height and just 4cm is enough for me feel normal

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http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2630164/table/T1/

I really doubt 5'7 is considered short in India.

Btw, generations don't grow instantly by 5 cm over the previous generation. It's usually 1 cm max, IF a secular trend exists. You can see on the table that men in Delphi (capital of India) grow -0.05 cm per decade. So the average height is actually decreasing.

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I can beyond any doubt say that the information provided is not credible. I never said a growth of 5 cm in between generation. But the growth chart is not linear. Probably after a certain height like in western countries it might increase by only 1cm. But if your initial height is short there is chance of increase by 5cm. For example all the friends I know are taller than their parents by at least 2 inches. My friends who is a professor 33 as me says all his students are taller than him and he has to be careful with them in a funny way and he is 5.8. My mom and dad are 5.3 both, my elder sister is 5.5 and me 5.7. Can you believe a lot of my friends and others asked me if my sister is taller than me . My sister herself commented few times that I am short, not that she is mean but she is concerned and wanted more of me. Girls generally look taller than their height. The current generation girls are taller I almost certainly see quiet a  few girls daily taller than me without heels and they look perfectly normal not like what people on this forum say as weird or something . This really hurts my ego even though I am happily married to my lovely wife who is 5.2

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Quote from: exclide on February 18, 2015, 11:37:07 AMhttp://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2630164/table/T1/

I really doubt 5'7 is considered short in India.

Btw, generations don't grow instantly by 5 cm over the previous generation. It's usually 1 cm max, IF a secular trend exists. You can see on the table that men in Delphi (capital of India) grow -0.05 cm per decade. So the average height is actually decreasing.

5'7 is objectively short. So ofcourse he is gonna be short and recieve short treatment.

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Quote from: Slim_tim on February 18, 2015, 01:32:44 PM5'7 is objectively short. So ofcourse he is gonna be short and recieve short treatment.

Derp. You know height differs from population to population, right? 178 may be short in Netherlands, but it's tall in asian countries. I don't have to be saying that.